How often do you sit in silence and meditate on the negative self-talk in your mind that won’t shut up? The more you try to focus on positive thoughts the louder the negative ones become. You try everything in your power to preoccupy yourself, yet they seem to keep reeling you back in. Before you know it, your mind is saturated with a crowd of negative Nancy’s telling you what you can and can’t do. Guess what, you’re not alone. It happens to the best of us.
Negative self-talk (aka the self-sabotage gremlin) was designed to stop you from reaching your destination of “greatness overload”. You have a purpose and you were placed here on earth to fulfill it. Once you realize just how valuable you are, you’re going to help others in a major way. In addition, you’ll be able to develop and become a positive powerhouse where all things wonderful can grow.
Here are three ways to silence those negative voices and get on with your life.
Identify The Root Cause Of Your Self-Sabotage and Negative Self-Talk
Identifying the root cause allows you to acknowledge the issue and it will empower you to overcome it. You can’t overcome an issue without first acknowledging its existence in your life. For example, an acknowledgement would be “I tend to withdraw when I’m let down by someone I cherish (aka depression).” This is acknowledging the emotion felt when someone lets you down.
Create A New Belief To Replace The Old
Creating a new belief is easier than you may think. Once you’ve located the root cause of your negative self-talk you now have the foundation needed to rebuild. For example, a new belief for withdrawal would be, “I will no longer allow others to place me in a dark space.” In fact, if you lower your expectations of the person that hurt you, it will minimize the opportunity for disappointment to show up in your experience. If you don’t expect much of them then it’ll be hard for them to disappoint you.
Affirm It Often
Create an affirmation around this new belief that will empower you to maintain your stance and move on with your life. For example, you could affirm, “I’m not easily moved by disappointment” or “I’m not easily disappointed by others.” Speaking your affirmations audibly and often is very empowering. It’s also a great way to silence the negative Nancy’s conversing in your mind.
Acknowledging hurt doesn’t mean to dwell there. Simply acknowledge the emotion, create a new more empowering belief, and affirm your new belief often. Clearing your mind is essential for growth and productivity. In order to get to your next level or your purpose in life, you must be willing to create a space (in your mind) that is conducive to progression so you can get on with your life.