Be the Person Your Dog Thinks You Are

They say people come into your life to teach you a lesson and I believe the same can be said for dogs. I have had dogs throughout my life. Each with their own personality, quirks, and habits. There was Puff, Pepper, Buddy, Daisy, and now Bentley. Bentley came into my life when I wasn’t expecting him. Rescued from Texas, he’s six pounds of cuteness with a little attitude and grit built in. 

Can this little puppy dog really teach an old dog (me) new tricks?

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Run with the Big Dogs

The statement I hear most often when people meet Bentley is “he is so small.” My response? Don’t let his size fool you. He can be a real boss. There are times when for his own safety he needs to let his presence known – like when he might get stepped on. He has learned to use his voice to let you know you need to pay attention. And once he gets familiar, he will walk in like he is top dog. 

Lessons: 

• When you notice the chatter in your head telling you that you do not add value, your ideas won’t work, or your opinions don’t matter, hit the brakes, and ask – who says? Give yourself a reality check.
• The key to speaking up, increasing your visibility, and making connections is identifying actions you can take that feel like you while challenging yourself. Don’t like big groups? Try a one-on-one coffee chat. Don’t have time for lunch? Show up a little early to a meeting to check in with a colleague. When it comes to growth, comfort is not the goal, authenticity is. A client who is afraid of public speaking recently accepted an opportunity to speak at a women’s conference. Her words to me – I’m really scared and I’m so proud of myself.

Lead with your Nose

Dogs are innately curious animals, and curious dogs often lead with their noses. This trait is not just a cute characteristic, it plays a crucial role in their mental and physical health. Bentley loves to explore and learn about new things. Sometimes to his detriment when it comes to bugs and putting things in his mouth. Don’t expect to go for a short walk because he must check everything out. He is also a quick learner. For example, he loves to play with his ball. To the point that if we even say the word ball, he will go crazy. So, we started to spell it. He quickly learned that B-A-L-L is the same as ball and means his favorite activity. 

Lessons: 

• Be curious about people, things, situations. What is important to that person? How does that work? What could be another reason this is happening? What can I do differently? You will be surprised at how much you discover about the world, how your relationships improve, and how much your stress decreases.
• Never stop learning. Learning is not only courses and books. It is also things like observation, having a mentor, and participating in hands-on experiences. 

They Call It Puppy Love

It is said that a dog is the only thing on Earth that loves you more than he loves himself. Actions are stronger than words when you are letting others know you love them, and dogs have figured that out. Bentley will look you right in the eye, he will position himself between you and the door as your protector, he will never judge, and he is always up for a cuddle to let you know you are adored. (especially when you are having a difficult day and really need it) And even after having to correct him, he is unwavering in his loyalty and love.

Lessons: 

• Love is not always words. It could be showing up with a cup of coffee, letting someone else have the parking space, or a big bear hug.
• Pay attention – who might need a little extra love right now? Who do you know has had a rough time lately? Are you noticing a change in someone’s behavior? What is your gut telling you? (Don’t ignore those nudges.)
• Especially right now, people are looking for compassion and caring from their leaders. And leaders are stepping up by being more present, truly listening, being open to dialogue even when they have limited information and simply asking about well-being.

Get the Zoomies

In most cases, zoomies are a sign of happiness, excitement, enthusiasm and all the good things. Essentially, zoomies are an energy burst. One of Bentley’s most endearing skills is his ability to leap for joy. He will even fly through the air as he flips his bed over. And it doesn’t take much to make it happen – a treat on the floor, a toy he forgot he had, someone entering the house – all result in spins, twirls, and leaps into the air. 

Lessons: 

• Make time for those things and people that bring you joy. What would it look like to add a little fun to your day? (even at work)
• Show your joy. When was the last time you laughed out loud? Or did a happy dance? Go ahead, wag your tail!

Woman’s Best Friend

Bentley and my mom are like two peas in a pod. Who would have thought that this little dog and an 84-year-old nana could be so much alike? They are best friends. So, when my parents moved into an assisted living facility, there was no way Bentley was not going to visit. He greets everyone, doling out tail wags and doggy kisses each time he visits like they are old friends. 

Sometimes Bentley disappears into the house and when I clap my hands, he comes running full speed showing his excitement for the interaction like I’m the most important person in the world.

Lesson: 

• How often do you think about how much you appreciate someone but don’t say it? It doesn’t take much effort to let someone know they are important. Because they are. 
• Bring positive energy into the room. (and if your energy is low, take responsibility to do what you need to do to change it up before impacting others) 
• Remind others why their actions, talents or presence make a difference in the world. Don’t only tell them what they do that is so good, also tell them the impact they have.

Can’t Keep a Good Dog Down

Bentley can go upstairs but he cannot come downstairs on his own. This can create an interesting quandary at times. He has no choice but to accept help. I will say “need a lift” and he will begrudgingly turn around so I can pick him up. 

Sometimes Bentley can be a little clumsy. There was even a time when he and I both had casts at the same time. But when those moments happen, he doesn’t let them stop him. He shakes it off and keeps going. 

Lessons:

• It’s okay to ask for help. We all need some from time to time. Not only will it allow you to expand your perspective and possibly get to quicker solutions, but it also provides the giver with a positive boost.
• When adversity hits, take a minute and then move to action. Your power is in a small step forward and small steps add up to big results.

Let Sleeping Dogs Lie (Literally)

As I’m writing this, Bentley is curled up in his bed next to my chair asleep. He plays hard, works hard, and then rests.

Lessons: 

• Reframe your mindset that rest is a productive activity. In fact, it is essential to be at our best. Busy will always be there. You deserve a break.

Seeing the world from a different perspective can bring new possibilities, opportunities, and fulfillment. My challenge to you is to consider the lessons that Bentley and the dog or cat in your life has to offer you and be open to more love and support. I double dog dare you!