Before we get into the idea of picking one word for the new year, take a moment to think back to January 1, 2019. What were you resolving to accomplish over the year? Maybe you wanted to join a gym, put more money into your savings, or spend more time with loved ones. Regardless of your resolution, if you are in the 41% of Americans who usually make a New Year’s Resolution, chances are you are also part of the 92% of Americans who fail to achieve their New Year’s goals. Well, isn’t that discouraging!
With only a few days left in 2019, you could aim to be more specific, more general, more thoughtful, or more organized when crafting your resolutions. But to be honest, you are going to need more than that to make it through the year! Only 58% of resolutions make it into February. It may be time to try something new to help you meet your goals.
May we present the idea of one word.
What it is:
Based on the books, One Word that will Change your Life and My One Word, the idea of choosing one word as your New Year’s resolution brings simplicity and focus to the upcoming year. Distractions are minimized and all aspects of your life can contribute to your word, influencing real change through a variety of activities and paths.
How to do it:
The books outline the process in which you choose your word in three steps:
- Determine the kind of person you want to become
- Identify the characteristics of that person
- Discover and pick your word
While this process may seem easy and direct, it takes time and reflection to find the best word. Put some soul into it!
Why you should try “One Word:”
DMV photographer Mary Kate Battles has been using this method for over five years. “New Year’s resolutions never worked for me. Life just always got in the way. I keep my word on my computer, phone, and mirror so I am always reminded of what I can to focus on and set my intentions for the day.” Amy Benton, Communications Director for Big Cork Vineyards in Maryland, has also found success using this method stating, “Having just one word that you focus your intentions around for me is a little simpler to work with.”
Julie Gaver, author, trainer, speaker and self-proclaimed “lover of one word,” admits that her first year wasn’t successful but she found a way to support the word discovery process that is working. “I can’t even remember what my word was the first year (probably why it wasn’t effective for me). I had read the book, but didn’t feel adequately prepared to fully utilize the technique. In year two, I tried again but this time, in conjunction with a planning and goal setting program. I was more prepared and ultimately, successful.”
“One Word” examples:
Selected words can run the gamut from trust to intentional or enough to persevere. “My words have included less, present, self-care, and content. The year I chose “present” I focused on what was in front of me and tried not to worry about the future or the past,” Battles shared.
Gaver has found her last two words to be influential during transition in her life. “In 2016 my word was “purge”. My in-laws had passed and we faced the arduous task of purging and organizing their belongings in preparation for two estate sales. In addition, I had begun the task of clearing 37 years of “stuff” from our own home so we could downsize in preparation for our move. Furthermore, purge represented my need for purging negative and stressful people and situations from my life.”
If you are intrigued by this technique, spend a few days in reflection before picking your word. (Consider eating some “mood foods” while you’re at it!) Grab the book (designed to be read in only 44 minutes) and begin the journey! You may find it a better process for you than typical New Year’s resolutions. However, Benton reminds you to be patient. “If your word doesn’t come to you right away, it will. You can’t force it.” Battles agrees, sharing, “Don’t pick a word just because it’s the first thing that comes to you or is a new buzz word. Really think about it and decide what you want your year to look like.”